Someone once asked me a question about honesty in relationships. Though the question was straightforward, I had trouble answering it, 'coz I guess I used to have my own issues regarding this.XD But that's out of the scope of this topic, so we move on.
Anyway, the question was :
How honest should you be in a relationship?Wuu, that put you on the spot to, didn't it?XD hahaha! Well, it took me a while to really think about it and i made some searching to this myself.. Yes, indeed, how honest should you be?
(and i do hope you're thinking about ALL relationships 'coz this is applicable to them ALL and not just the bf/gf type.XD)
hmm... for instance, you and a friend are eating out, and you notice something near your friend's mouth..
A BOOGER! (man, where do these things come from?XD) what do you do? well, who wants to be walking around with someone who has booger on their face? I thought so. But aside from silently trying to get separated, you could just tell that person in a discreet manner (don't try ""you've got rice on your lips" lest he/she tries to lick it off..XD eew!).hahahaha! But really, what I'm trying to point out here is that
honesty helps, not only the person but also yourself. But then again,
HOW FAR?! okay, I'm trying to get there (my head is in complete disarray..XD) I guess, there are times that we need to be honest, and
there are times that we should keep silent, and let another person be the honest one. Lemme try to think of an example: *ponders*
let's name the persons [A], [B] and [C]. [C] seems to be having a problem with person [B]'s attitude and tells [A] about it, but [B] unknowingly remains the same. Although [A] knows about the situation, he talks to [C] that it should be him that tells [B] his problem, and not [A] because [A] might look at [B] in a different way. You still with me?
One more thing about being honest is that you should
be honest when you know it helps. If it isn't helpful, you're better off to shut up. It's like constructive criticism. We should build each other up, and not try to pull our friends down, besides, what friend would try to pul another down (ooh, boy, crab mentality...)?
It's really a cliche to close this with your standard "Honesty is the best policy" quote, so i guess it might be more appropriate to say:
Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom (T. Jefferson). And indeed, it is so, for honesty might not be the best policy for everyone, but it's the best quality we can all learn.
hmm... so i guess that's that. That's all i can share for now. please do post your views and comments so that i may edit this if i made some mistakes.